Posted on : 28-01-2012 | By : stargaterich | In : Facts Of Life, personal development
Tags: adversity, excuses, responsibility
Why me, why me? I am sure many of us ask this question one way or another in our struggle with adversity in life. After all, the life we live on this blue planet is full of surprises, it is a challenge to cope with events that affects us, situations that we do not anticipate and which we have no total control of. It is easy for us to find excuses and put the blame on others for our predicaments.
Life is never a bunch of roses so to speak. It is through hardship and adversity that we continue to grow, improve and enhance mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Struggle is part of living , no risk no gain, no pain no glory so to speak. I know that such saying might be out of touch for some people however the time will come that each and everyone will have to deal with crisis one way or another.
After all, it is more of some sort of natural reflex for us to find the path of least resistance to deal with difficulties confronting us. Indulging in self pity is one of them. We lament that we are not rich because we are not born with a silver spoon in our mouth. It is easier to explain why things go wrong by directing the cause and effect away from us rather then to accept the fact that we are part of the problem and we can make a difference by taking responsibility for it.
We think other are better than us because they have higher IQ and intellectual ability to climb the rope of success. We resign to so-called fate or destiny and blame all our woes on karma. No amount of self improvement and personal development books that we read will make any difference so long as we are not willing to flip the switch in our mind to the ‘I can’ mentality.
Did you know that regardless of circumstances in life, you can make a difference and improve your lot and achieve all desires by having the right mindset? Sometimes, the greatest lesson and enlightenment comes not through what the personal development Guru says but through real life experiences and examples.
I stumble across this You-tube video about a physically challenge man who live life the fullest, the way he wanted it despite severe shortcomings. I find many of such real live events really inspiring. After all, we live only this once, and we should spend each moment to the best of what we can be and not want we think we could’ve become.
You don’t have to be angry with yourself, you certainly don’t have to be angry with others and makes life more complicated than it is when things go wrong. Life as we know is transient, it is what we make it out to be and by the way, it is not how long you live that matters but rather how you live your life.
Stop finding excuses, take responsibility when things don’t turn out the way you expect and chart your own course in life. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. As the saying goes, failure to plan is planning to fail. If you don’t make decisions, others will make on behalf of you and chances are that you will not like the outcome of such decisions made by others.